Men - How Waking Up Your Wife's Sex Drive Can Help You To Save Your Marriage

Men - if your marriage is on the road to destruction, just get back in the driver's seat of your marriage and wake up your wife's sex drive. Become the leader she subconsciously wants you to be and saving your marriage will be easier than you think.

What you have to do is to change all your negative thoughts into positive ones. If you master your mind, you will master your life and in turn become the master of your relationship. You can change your habits, behaviours, activities, beliefs and ideas and enjoy the passionate rock-solid marriage or relationship you deserve.

As Henry Ford said "Whether you think you can or think you can't - either way you're right." Are you a CAN or a CAN'T? Can you change enough to save your marriage? And not only save it but become the master of your relationship and fill it with love, romance, happiness and lots of great sex.

The solution to saving your marriage is quite simple really. It all relates to leadership in the marriage. When a woman is being lead by a loving, fun, charismatic leader she will do anything to make him happy. You see instinctively leadership is everything to a woman's sex drive. I know that thought is opposite to what you've been taught. You've been taught that men and women should be 100% equal. In business and society, that is absolutely true. But in your marriage someone has to be the leader and that someone must be you.

So the answer is to reboot your brain and return to the caveman-style hunter mode. Return to the driver's seat. Reawaken the leader you once were so that your wife's sex drive will sense that you are a great leader and her attraction for you will fly through the roof. She will grow to love you forever and you yourself will be stronger and sexier than you can imagine.

And why is that you may well ask? Well our sexuality is still very much governed by our Stone Age genetics where a male's sex drive and hunting skills had to be strong enough to ensure the survival of the human species. In reproductive terms you can think of men as the sperm donors and providers, and women as the child-bearers and child-raisers. The caveman was the leader, just like you need to be.

The origins of sex drive are both biological, and psychological. The biological arm includes the brain, the nervous system, hormones and physical well being. Actually the brain is the biggest sex organ of all. Actually, the most primitive part of the brain, the limbic system and the hypothalamus, controls sex drive.

The psychological part has it's foundation based on our feelings and thoughts; lifestyle and the environment; and on the quality of the relationship. It is controlled by the desire centres in the brain which control sexual desire and arousal. These desire centres are controlled by hormones and in particular the male hormone testosterone which affects both males and females. The desire centres send "sex currents" which control sex drive. This "sexual electricity" varies from day to day and from person to person so it is to be expected that everyone has different levels of desire and this will fluctuate from day to day depending on the circumstances. Impaired physical or emotional wellbeing reduces sexual interest.

Men are expected to have a higher sex drive than women because their testosterone level is often 10 to 20 times higher. It doesn't always work that way however, and there are times when couples have differing levels of sex drive. Problems with libido are common with one partner having a higher sex drive than the other. Unfortunately this is a common reason for divorce and when you are working on saving your marriage it is essential to keep this in mind. True love is not always a bed of roses and a perfect match in all areas of life (sexual, emotional, intellectual and spiritually) is only for fairy tales or romantic novels.

Sexual desire means feeling horny or having interest in sexual activity. Sexual arousal means being turned on and physically ready to have sex. The higher your sex drive the easier you will be aroused. Sexual desire emanates from love and trust in a close relationship and is a sign of good health and wellbeing. The factors which affect sex drive are:

- Neurological (the brain and nervous system)
- Hormonal (in particular testosterone)
- Personal wellbeing
- Physical wellbeing
- Relationship wellbeing

If any of these factors are affected by any other condition such as sickness or depression, then your desire will wane and you will have less desire. If all factors are in good health, you will think about sex more often and that is the key to saving your marriage. If you want to enhance your sex drive you need to focus on the positives and tune out the negatives about yourself, your partner, your relationship and your sex life. To maintain a happier, healthier sex life it is important to stay fit and healthy, and to work on maintaining a happy and healthy relationship.

Enhancers increase sex drive, inhibitors decrease it. Find out what turns your partner on or off and then maximise enhancers and minimise the inhibitors. Use enhancers to improve your sex life in order to save your marriage. Do you remember the well known nursery rhyme?

"Sugar and spice and all things nice, That's what little girls are made of. Slugs and snails and puppy dogs' tails, That's what little boys are made of."

Men like porn whereas women crave romance. Typical enhancers for girls include romantic gestures such as flowers, phone calls, intimacy, walks along the beach and holding hands. Classic enhancers for men are things like nudity, pornography, erotica, and variation in lovemaking methods. What happens in your relationship during the day will ultimately decide the quality of your sex life at night. Use enhancers to get your libido back in sync with each other. Good loving is the key to great sex and great sex is the key to saving your marriage.

Intimacy is the complete intertwining and sharing of mind and body. The other gets to know your deepest, darkest secrets and the essence of who you really are. With this comes a high level of trust and if this is broken it will cause severe damage to the relationship. Intimacy needs commitment - a conscious choice to go into an all exclusive relationship. If you want fulfilment in a relationship then you need commitment. Re-establish trust and commitment as a move to saving your marriage. Intimacy, trust and commitment are important factors to put in place if you want to save your marriage.

The best relationships develop when you become friends as well as lovers, because if passion wanes then the relationship remains strong through friendship bonds - play, sport, social, fun, romance and other fun past-times you can do together. Intimacy can be developed on many levels:

* Emotional *Intellectual *Physical *Family *Recreational *Spiritual *Sexual

All levels are important for a good relationship and the more you do together the more you bond and the more secure your relationship becomes and the more chance you have of having a long and happy marriage.

Summing up saving your marriage is easier than you think - all you have to do is reawaken your wife's sex drive by putting yourself back in the driver's seat. Save your marriage by reawakening the leader in you and become the master of your relationship. The rest will follow.